Daily Sex and the Teleconference

This last Tuesday was the first part of the "Goddess in the Bedroom" teleconference that was mentioned in my last post. It was somewhat informative. After reading a lot about sex and hearing a lot about it from other people, I've somewhat come to realize that my situation is unique. Even though it shouldn't be. I think every woman should be with a man who not only fucks her but makes love to her, I think every woman should get off at least once, every time she has sex, and I think every woman should have a guy that makes them feel incredibly beautiful and sexy. But alas, it seems this is not the case for a great deal of women out there. So I think a lot of the information in the teleconference (at least in this part) was aimed to the women who don't already have a pretty great love life. Now, mine isn't perfect, and I'm always looking for ways to improve, so that's why I'm taking it. She mostly talked about things like ways to set the bedroom (which is our domain) up for ultimate pleasure, and how it is our job to constantly be surprising the man and teaching him what romantic things we like. I did like her tips for setting up the bedroom. After it was over I went into my room and realized that the dirty laundry in the corner, all the clutter on the dresser, the lack of anything romantic such as candles or flowers or some good smelling stuff...really did not set the stage for ultimate romance and love-making. I mean, the sex is always nice, but I am curious to see how much better the experience could be if I actually set my room up with that in mind. So this week I've been working on keeping it neat and clutter free, and I'm also trying to figure out how to get some candles in there without being paranoid that my cats are going to knock them over whilst we are in the throes of passion (yeah, I saw that episode of Desperate Housewives and that is not happening to me). I'll let you know if anything I change has an effect on the sex.

I also wanted to mention that I have a co-worker who I talk fairly often with about sex. It's a casual workplace, and we keep it between us, so it's not strange. Anyway, she's been bragging to me lately about how many days her and her boyfriend have gone in a row having sex; last I heard she was at nine. Well, not to be outdone, I told her I would challenge her and see how many days me and J. could go doing the deed without having a break. I thought it'd be a fun little contest and something to urge me and J. to have sex everyday as opposed to being lazy like we sometimes are. But when I told him about it he said it was a stupid idea, that being "obligated" to have sex every day took the spontaneity and romance out of it. I could see his point, but it's not like I was going to be forcing us to do it every day. Well, I still wanted to see how many days we could go, and it was four, at least for now. It pales to her nine, but the other night I was tired and he was tired and I was so not going to say, "Oh, we haven't had sex today and we need to." That wouldn't have gone over so well. Anyway, what do you guys think of making a conscious effort to have sex every day, or a certain amount of times a week, or scheduling it, or anything akin to that? Do you think it takes the romance out, or do you think it's simply a way of making it a priority since it's important to the relationship?