Just LET GO

Tonight J. is off with his friends for boy's night so I finally got a chance to listen to the last part of the Goddess in the Bedroom teleconference.  One thing Sierra talked about that struck me as odd was she said that one of the things women are must concerned about in the bedroom is that they're going to lose control.  She talked about how women need to learn to loosen up and not be afraid of that.
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A wha?!  I LOVE when a man takes control in the sack.  It's one of the hottest things he can do is to pin me up against the wall and tell me exactly what he wants.  Or something like that. ;) And here's why I think I love it so much.  In pretty much all areas of my life, I am very controlling.  I like things done my way.  I'm a perfectionist.  I will tell you if you're doing something wrong and how you should fix it so that you're doing it correctly (which is, of course, my way).  But in the bedroom, he is in control.  He can tell me what position he wants, put his hand on my throat, tell me to go down on him, whatever.  I think I crave being able to relinquish control in some aspect of my life, and what a wonderful place to give it to someone else, as long as they're good and I trust them. 

So I guess I have that sex goddess part down.  Sure, every once in a while if I can sense that he's tired or something I'll take charge or be a tease because I know that men like that sometimes, but I never ever worry about losing control.  And if there are any women reading this who do have trouble with that, try it sometimes.  Try just letting go.  Let him be the man.  Let him tell you what to do.  It's incredibly hot, and if you're anything like me (a control freak in general) it will feel great to let that go while you're between the sheets.